How do you KNOW when a footballer is in crisis?......

Amana Walker: How do you KNOW when a footballer is in crisis?......: ....Usually you don't. Until they hit rock bottom that is - then everyone knows because it hits the papers. But that's (arguably) to...

How do you KNOW when a footballer is in crisis?....

....Usually you don't.

Until they hit rock bottom that is - then everyone knows because it hits the papers.

But that's (arguably) too late.

'Struggling to cope' can be picked up much earlier than that, often there are tell tale signs that build up over a long period of time. Signs such as these:

1. Withdrawal from being around people (including family)

2. Moods becoming inconsistent for no apparent reason
3. 'Lashing out' and shouting at the slightest thing - on and off the pitch.
4. A growing dependence on .......(fill in the gap with: drink, clubbing, sex, drugs etc).
5. A spiralling downturn in performance
6. Repeated illness/injury/ and 'red card' offences...


At first it seems like the person is having an 'off day' and no real attention is given.
But if someone did pay closer attention, and looked at the detail in body language -
they'd know.
They'd know that here is a cry for help.

There are many footballers/ sportspeople/ celebrities .....(yes and people like you and I) out there all showing the tell tale signs.

You'll get to know of course. When it hits the papers. And when you are well known, that makes for juicy news and this magnifies the problem even more.

Many will argue that these people 'get paid enough' to handle it. But at times like these, money is often the root of the problem - it's a vicious circle!

For all the money being thrown at the sports and entertainment business - it's a sad day when not enough is thrown at picking people up when they are down.

Or dropped from the team.

'Championship' and 'Premiership' doesn't seem to apply to the players' level of care and well being.
Not all good businesses take care of their 'assets'.

...there is far more to winning than scoring goals.

Amana
Straightforward, straight talking coach
www.amanawalker.com
www.walkahead.com

Amana Walker: It's mid -January.....so ,what now?

Amana Walker: It's mid -January.....so ,what now?: Christmas is a distant memory...the fun of New Year has gone,and we are well into January 2013. So What Now? Are you raring to go or alr...

It's mid - January.....so ,what now?

Christmas is a distant memory...the fun of New Year has gone,and we are well into January 2013.

So What Now?

Are you raring to go or already fed up? Is this going to be YOUR year, or are you struggling to keep yourself motivated?

Newspapers and Magazines are full of tips for mind, body and soul- so there's no shortage of help at hand.

But tips aren't always the stuff that's needed.
Often, it's you. Isn't it?

You are the one who has the answers- you just don't want to face them. Yet.
It's much easier to look at (and read about) other peoples' lives. How they might be struggling, what's going well (or not) for them. Especially celebrities.

Looking outside is much more comfortable than looking within. At ourselves.

I say- as a coach (and I am mean) be uncomfortable ! Get out of your comfy comfort zone, kick your own ass and get moving!

Get living! ..and don't wait until Monday (what a lame excuse). Today is the best day to start.
Stop giving yourself excuses. Think about what you want to do with your life (and with yourself) this year and make a god damn plan!

Set your goals high , give yourself some deadline dates - and set yourself on fire with determination!

OR.

Get yourself a coach who will give you the kick you need.
....But if you want easy. Don't ask me.

Heck, I'm really mean.
But good.

Amana
Straightforward, straight talking Coach.
www.amanawalker.com
www.walkahead.com

What's hiding 'Beneath your Beautiful?'

 

Apart from the fact that it is lovely song, Emeli Sande/Labrinth's 'Beneath your Beautiful' holds many truths.

So many people put on a 'front' - a persona, an image of someone they are pretending to be.

At work it can masquerade as 'professionalism' (but too distant).
In the celeb world it often comes out as 'aloofness' .
And in sport - you may well just look like a cocky prat! (sorry but it's true).

...and in all 3, don't be surprised if at some point you go off the rails and down that slippery slope of being angry/ frustrated/ lonely/ depressed.

Do you intend to give out these messages? Er, probably not. But of course on the inside you feel different to how you look on the outside. So to you ,doing the 'pretending'- it feels safe - almost a guard behind a big wall.

That, my friends is where there is a problem.

Because in this fast paced world we live in, we don't have the time (or patience) to look beyond the perception and climb the wall. Or try to see what's behind it.

So whilst you feel safe behind your wall of protection....no one knows who you really are.

No one can see your strengths
No one can see your potential
No one can see your real personality
No one can see your real beauty
No one can love the real you.

And THAT, can be not only very isolating, but also means you never. really. shine.

Heck! What kind of a life is that???!!

Whatever reason you have for hiding behind it (and whatever you are afraid of) , there will be a solution for it - Goddammit - GO LOOK FOR IT.

Ask for help if you need to ....but just flippin' do it. (I know, I'm tough on you).

And only then can you start living life as the real you.allowing people to see you 'stripped bare' (ie by quitting the cover up ).


I promise you, when poeple see 'beneath your beautiful' - they find something better.

Amana
Straightforward, straight talking coach.

www.amanawalker.com