WHY Blame the Ref?

Football is a complicated sport.
The GAME isn't complicated - but the PEOPLE involved in it sure as hell are.

Here's the latest example...Man U vs R Madrid .
It was ALWAYS going to be a big game - just look at the teams involved.
Then look at the star players.
...And then the Managers.

Let's not forget the gazillion fans watching on site and at home. We ALL have an opinion
But no amount of screaming would change the result.(tried that one already)

The debate about whether the ref was right or wrong in his decision will rage on forever. And to some, he will now always be a 'w*nker' (at least).

But stop.
Haven't we seen teams with only 10 men win games before? Hell yeah.
In the face of mounting pressure, some teams have played better than they would have played with
11 men on the pitch, and won the game.

But not this time.
That's football.

Passion for the game gives us the opportunity to demonstrate the stuff we're made of.
It also gives us the opportunity to demonstrate that we're a complete pr*ck.


Alex is too distraught to talk about the result (is that good leadership? - just sayin').

Jose says the best team lost (what must HIS team , who WON the game, think?).

Ferdinand dis's the ref to his face (what example does that set to his team, colleagues and young fans the world over?)

Other players joined in and ranted at the ref at the end of the game - no doubt shouting and swearing. (but its over. sad, frustrating. And over).


So WHY blame the ref?
He didn't lose the game for Man U, and he didn't win the game for Madrid.
He had a job to do and he did it.

BOTH teams are , and will carry on being, GREAT teams.

Sadly, some individuals (in the heat of the moment no doubt) have just lost some respect, and have damaged their reputation in front of millions of young kids watching.
That's our future.

Its easy (and lazy) to blame...it's more of a challenge to turn a problem around.

Perhaps we need to pay them more money to do that?

If money is tight, give the players to me, and I'll quickly make their attitude control the best in the world.
No messin' around.

Until footballers (and managers) can master their mind , they will NEVER be as good as they COULD be.

Football, it's all in the head.

Amana
straightforward, straight talking coach.

www.amanawalker.com
www.walkahead.co.uk




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You,Social Networking...and Being A Celebrity

Social networking sites? Oh yeah, they are potentially..... bad news for us.

 

Facebook, Twitter and the rest are meant to help us stay connected to friends, build new relationships and enhance our lives.

But in some instances.... the opposite is happening.

Ever had a negative comment from a photo you've put up of yourself?

How about when you've read something a 'friend' has written about you ...that touched a 'nerve'?

Does it ever feel like other people's lives are SO much better than yours?

What about when you look at pictures of celebrities (and even your friends) and in your eyes - you look a total disaster compared to any of them?

Yep, I KNOW you have.
Because I see it, hear about it, and help people overcome the anxiety that goes with this ALL THE TIME.

The power of social networking is strong. So your belief in yourself - and all you have going for you - HAS to be even stronger (read - sh*t hot!).
If not, you are in danger of being the biggest bully in the world - TO YOURSELF.


So what can you do about it? - here's a few ideas:( and if you want some more. Just ask.)

1. Whenever you have a camera pointing at you :

Think of something funny that will make you smile naturally.(c'mon that's easy).

Focus your mind on what makes you feel good.
If you think 'hell!... I look awful today', or 'I hate having my picture taken' - then THAT'S EXACTLY what will show up on camera. So DON'T do that to yourself.

2. Find that you are comparing yourself to others?

Remember that everyone has little 'gripes' about themselves - but the ones we hear the most (and loudest) are our very own. Tell the negative voice in your head to NAFF OFF, and bring in a voice that only focuses on what is GOOD about you.
We ALL have some kind of XFactor - find YOURS.

Beware...
All is not what it seems. Celebrities have 'demons' and insecurities too - and often they are played out in public which magnifies their issues even more. At least we have a degree of privacy - be grateful for that.

3. Read something hurtful about yourself?

Stuff is often said in the heat of the moment - and in hindsight is regretted. So don't ALLOW a hurtful comment to linger in your head. It could drag you down unnecessarily.
Laugh it off - (at least someone is thinking about you).

Remember you are likely to make the situation worse if you join in and 'hit back'. Is it really worth it? And aren't you BETTER than that?

4. You are in charge of YOU

That's right. You are the boss of you.
So YOU determine how you feel. YOU decide what actions you will take.
And YOU can make yourself feel absolutely flippin' AMAZING.
YOUR CHOICE.
Just saying.

5. If you want a number '5' .

...Get in touch and say 'Amana, gimme some more'.

So stay connected for the right reasons, have fun, and remember that you have a 'voice', so you use it wisely .

You get back what you give out in life. It's cheesy. But true.

Everyone has a life behind the image - and no ones' is perfect - so don't be fooled by the image you see.

And - Believe. In. You.

Look for and focus on your BEST INGREDIENTS. Everything else just isn't important.
...and any social network can be your friend for life.
 

Trust me.
I'm a coach (an AMAZING coach).

Amana
Straightforward, straight talking coach.
www.amanawalker.com
www.walkahead.co.uk