Talk too much? OUCH. That's dangerous.....

I can't believe just how many people fall into this category.    

Yes, we are living in a world with information/ technology/online overload  - but now we have a growing number of people who are adding 'talk' to the noise.

Here's a test for you:  - ask someone a simple question, and see how longer their answer is.

How many get straight to the point?

The dangers of people who talk too much are HUGE, so without risking talking too much,
here's a few biggies:

1. They risk losing the plot and end up talking nonsense (..or is that the other way around?!).
2. They isolate you and are not interested in listening to you. (do they even realise?)
3. Even if they are interested - they don't stop for you to speak (That's just rude).
4. They build a reputation (and it ain't a good one).
5. Their self awareness is pants.( aka crap).
6. And if they are self aware - hell, they have a big ego! (know any of those....?).

So if you are one of these people. Get. Help. Fast.
Or contact me.

If you know someone like this - forward this blog post on to them.
And get them to contact me.

Not only would you be doing them a huge favour, you'd be helping to save the world.
It's not (just) about saving our ears. I'm talking about sanity and emotional well being for all.

Who's with me on this eh?


Amana
Straightforward, straight talking coach.
www.amanawalker.com

Simon Cowell and the Egg Thrower

Someone has been carrying a grudge. For a long time...

Oh , I understand how deep feelings can run when you face 'rejection' of any kind.
But revenge is not sweet - and the backlash is far worse. 

A real winner is one who 'fails' or 'falls' and then picks themselves up and carries on - learning more as they go. A winning reputation has to be earned.


So Simon Cowell had a few eggs thrown at him. But he's not the one who got hurt.

The 2 guys (Richard and Adam) singing their heart out on the BGT final did.
Their family/friends/supporters in the audience- who watched them have their big moment destroyed, did.
The security and staff who will face the questions around how it could have happened did.
And perhaps the egg throwers family, who were stunned to see her behaving like that, did.


In order to satisfy one persons need to lash out, is it worth causing so much grief to people who
 are genuinely there to help and support you?


You decide. The votes are free and the lines are always open.

Amana
Straightforward, straighttalking coach
www.amanawalker.com
 

Wentworth....and Winning

Congratulations to Matteo Manassero.

Regardless of how old you are....or how many years you've played, you can still win.
At Wentworth, or anywhere.

Assuming you have the skill at it, that is.

Oh, and you need one more thing.

The.Right.Mindset.

Because when the going gets tough and the pressure is on, your skill might suddenly let you down.

You might want to 'blame' it on your swing not being right, or your short game, or long game, or even your flippin' putting needing some attention.

But the truth is, your skill is NOT the problem, is it?

Your beliefs are driving your thoughts and your thoughts are driving your behaviour.

So if you want to win at Wentworth...or anywhere - GET GOOD at managing what's going on in your head.  No more 'excuses'.

Amana
Straightforward, straight talking coach
www.amanawalker.com

And the winner of 'The Voice' IS........

So The Voice and Britain's Got Talent is back on our screens in the UK (as is The X Factor in the USA).

These contests are full of excellent singers - solo and groups, and has it's usual mix of those who cannot and will NEVER be able, to sing.
Even if their mum does tell them they can!!.

But CAN you pick a 'winner' out of all that talent?
There are plenty of people with confidence, and those who have been singing for years - they KNOW how to face an audience and love the spotlight.
Chances are that one of them will win - right?

Well actually, wrong....

The star, and ultimate winner will be someone who is the opposite to that, trust me (I know it's early days and you have my permission to e mail me to tell me I'm wrong, if I am !).

But I know that the person who wins will be someone like this:

- They will lack confidence
- They won't have much stage experience
- They will be humble and doubt their abilities
- They will believe that anyone else is likely to win, except themselves
- They won't believe that people could actually vote for them....

How do I know this? Because that's the kind of person we want to see win.

The winner will be an 'unlikely' star. An ordinary 'girl/guy next door' type .
A total 'non celebrity'.
Someone who has talent - but more importantly has a big dose of 'Ingredient X'.

Watch and you'll see.

Amana Walker,
Straightforward,straight talking coach- Expert in finding Ingredient X.

What do you NEED to win?...Take a peek

Here's a short sample from my book:

'The Power of Ingredient 'X'..

..A no nonsense guide on how to stand out from the crowd.'

(Draft sample chapter)

Let’s take talent.

We’ve all seen it. A talent show where the person with the most talent DOESN'T win!

Because someone else stands out more. They grab us by our emotions. We want them to win because we LIKE them-not because they are the best at what they do.

Funny that . 
But we like them for a reason (or reasons). Let's just say they 'have it'.  
Their own, unique personal cocktail - their Ingredient 'X'.

SO are people with ‘it’, born with  it?

Hell No!
 

It’s true that many people develop their own charisma, friendliness, ‘likeability’ from a young age. But that’s the thing-it often develops over time, and, personal surroundings, family –and circumstances, all play a part.

Ingredient ‘X’ in Sports

 

There are many skillful sportspeople out there who have worked for years to get to where they are at. Best in their team, best in their town, best in their country, Olympic medal winners.

Now, there is no doubting that they are good, and have the ability to win.

But they sure don’t all show their uniqueness - their Ingredient ‘X’, so we don’t become emotionally engaged and fail to connect with them. And that costs. Massively.

‘There is only one David Beckham!’-I hear people say. Not only is he nifty with his feet, he’s sharp when it comes to placing the ball-but let’s be honest-other people can do that, can’t they? ...Only they can’t do it the way David does it.
He has the flair and style to go with it. Ok, he's damn sexy - which is a huge factor for many (and has earned him a few bob). But he also appears to be (perception is everything baby) a nice guy. And he’s a family man. And he seems patriotic. And he does a lot to help develop young kids’ football skills.

.....And before we know it, he has a cocktail of stuff that makes us like him for more than just football.

What about Wayne Rooney? Different style. Hungry, aggressive, young, down to earth, ‘boy next door married to girl next door’ type. Different to Beckham-different cocktail again.

And, Messi?...WHERE do we even  start?!

 

What about football managers?

Jose Mourinhio-driven, dashing, powerful leader, fiery, exciting, self- confident, sexy.

Harry Redknapp-caring, ‘safe’, authoritative, ‘fatherly figure’, motivational, respected.

Both different. Both good. Different Ingredient ‘X’ cocktail mixtures.....

And don't get me started on The Masters...The best will be there, and all more than capable of winning.

But listen to the crowd and you'll see which golfers they are getting behind to win.
.....Ask yourself WHY.

(To read more excerpts follow @coachx on twitter...)

Amana

Straightforward,straight talking coach.

www.amanawalker.com

NOT achieved your 'thing' yet? - It's time to CHANGE your game.

I coach so many people who are disappointed.

They are disillusioned at work.
They aren't achieving what they'd hoped.
They haven't found the man/woman of their dreams.
They'd hoped that by 'this age'...they'd have so much more.

They look around and wonder why other people have what they want. But 'life' of course hasn't treated them quite so well.

...And all the time they spend thinking about what they haven't got, they are sliding further down the spiral of negativity. The further they fall the harder it is to pick themselves up.
It's no surprise that their friends/family/colleagues....don't want to be around them. They can't 'fix' their life for them.

And that my friends is when the well intended, verbal KICK up the arse is so needed.Yeh really.

Who am I to allow YOU to drag yourself down even further?
Its time to change your game.

Something IS going right in your life (if you cant find it, I flippin' will)
Whatever that is ...build, build and build on it.

How much of this 'disappointment' have you brought upon yourself?.....
..(hold back from lashing out at me - I'm on your side)...we are MASTERS at self- sabotage.
And we are SO good at beating ourselves up.
Listen to your language - how DO you talk to yourself (mentally and openly)?
Until you support who YOU are, very few will be attracted to you. 


And - here's one that might hurt -
..Just how much have you REALLY tried to get what you want in life?
Because when you want something BADLY, you just DON'T STOP trying.
Ever.

For every disappointment, knock, or set back you have - there is a an opportunity for you.
The opportunity is in what you SAY to yourself at that time.
MOST people get angry, frustrated,hurt or worse.

THE WINNERS...say 'so what? - this has happened for a reason, BRING ON the next challenge'.
(or words like that).

The MAJORITY , slide down that spiral even further - and stay there even longer.Because 'luck' only happens to other people.
NO! - you can be as 'lucky' as you TRY HARD to be.

I never said achieving your thing would be easy.
But it DOES depend on HOW BADLY you want it.

Amana,
Straightforward,straight talking coach.
www.amanawalker.com

How do you know when a footballer (or MANAGER) is in crisis?...

....Usually you don't.

 

Until they hit rock bottom that is - then everyone knows because it hits the news.

But that's (arguably) too late.

'Struggling to cope' can be picked up much earlier than that, often there are tell tale signs that build up over a long period of time.

 

Signs such as these:

1. Withdrawal from being around people (including family)

2. Moods becoming inconsistent for no apparent reason
3. 'Lashing out' and shouting at the slightest thing - on and off the pitch.
4. A growing dependence on .......(fill in the gap with: drink, clubbing, sex, drugs etc).
5. A spiralling downturn in performance and attitude
6. Repeated illness/injury/or 'red card' offences


At first it seems like the person is having an 'off day' and no real attention is given.
But if someone did pay closer attention, and looked at the detail in body language - and the stuff that comes out of their mouths (bad language, highly opinionated, denial of truth)..

They'd know that here is a cry for help.

There are many footballers - and managers'/ sportspeople/ celebrities .....(and people like you and me) out there all showing the tell tale signs.

You get to know of course. When it hits the press.
And if you are well known, that makes for juicy news and this magnifies the problem even more.

Bit of a tricky start for you, Mr Di Canio? Perhaps its time to be a good ROLE MODEL to your team.
Honesty, openness and humility is a must if you want to win some respect.
And if you don't, your team will isolate you - and neither of you stand much chance of success.
The speculation will not go away until you change your behaviour.

Many will argue that people in top sport 'get paid enough' to handle it. But at times like these, money is often the root and driver of the problem.

For all the money being thrown at the sports and entertainment business - it's a sad day when not enough is thrown at picking people up when they are down or struggling to handle themselves in the spotlight.


'Championship' and 'Premiership' doesn't seem to apply to the teams' level of care and well being.
Not all good businesses take care of their 'assets'.

...there is far more to winning than scoring goals.

Attitude is EVERYTHING, Mr Di Canio. Get it right.
No one is bigger than the club.

Amana
Straightforward, straight talking coach.
www.amanawalker.com

WHY Blame the Ref?

Football is a complicated sport.
The GAME isn't complicated - but the PEOPLE involved in it sure as hell are.

Here's the latest example...Man U vs R Madrid .
It was ALWAYS going to be a big game - just look at the teams involved.
Then look at the star players.
...And then the Managers.

Let's not forget the gazillion fans watching on site and at home. We ALL have an opinion
But no amount of screaming would change the result.(tried that one already)

The debate about whether the ref was right or wrong in his decision will rage on forever. And to some, he will now always be a 'w*nker' (at least).

But stop.
Haven't we seen teams with only 10 men win games before? Hell yeah.
In the face of mounting pressure, some teams have played better than they would have played with
11 men on the pitch, and won the game.

But not this time.
That's football.

Passion for the game gives us the opportunity to demonstrate the stuff we're made of.
It also gives us the opportunity to demonstrate that we're a complete pr*ck.


Alex is too distraught to talk about the result (is that good leadership? - just sayin').

Jose says the best team lost (what must HIS team , who WON the game, think?).

Ferdinand dis's the ref to his face (what example does that set to his team, colleagues and young fans the world over?)

Other players joined in and ranted at the ref at the end of the game - no doubt shouting and swearing. (but its over. sad, frustrating. And over).


So WHY blame the ref?
He didn't lose the game for Man U, and he didn't win the game for Madrid.
He had a job to do and he did it.

BOTH teams are , and will carry on being, GREAT teams.

Sadly, some individuals (in the heat of the moment no doubt) have just lost some respect, and have damaged their reputation in front of millions of young kids watching.
That's our future.

Its easy (and lazy) to blame...it's more of a challenge to turn a problem around.

Perhaps we need to pay them more money to do that?

If money is tight, give the players to me, and I'll quickly make their attitude control the best in the world.
No messin' around.

Until footballers (and managers) can master their mind , they will NEVER be as good as they COULD be.

Football, it's all in the head.

Amana
straightforward, straight talking coach.

www.amanawalker.com
www.walkahead.co.uk




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You,Social Networking...and Being A Celebrity

Social networking sites? Oh yeah, they are potentially..... bad news for us.

 

Facebook, Twitter and the rest are meant to help us stay connected to friends, build new relationships and enhance our lives.

But in some instances.... the opposite is happening.

Ever had a negative comment from a photo you've put up of yourself?

How about when you've read something a 'friend' has written about you ...that touched a 'nerve'?

Does it ever feel like other people's lives are SO much better than yours?

What about when you look at pictures of celebrities (and even your friends) and in your eyes - you look a total disaster compared to any of them?

Yep, I KNOW you have.
Because I see it, hear about it, and help people overcome the anxiety that goes with this ALL THE TIME.

The power of social networking is strong. So your belief in yourself - and all you have going for you - HAS to be even stronger (read - sh*t hot!).
If not, you are in danger of being the biggest bully in the world - TO YOURSELF.


So what can you do about it? - here's a few ideas:( and if you want some more. Just ask.)

1. Whenever you have a camera pointing at you :

Think of something funny that will make you smile naturally.(c'mon that's easy).

Focus your mind on what makes you feel good.
If you think 'hell!... I look awful today', or 'I hate having my picture taken' - then THAT'S EXACTLY what will show up on camera. So DON'T do that to yourself.

2. Find that you are comparing yourself to others?

Remember that everyone has little 'gripes' about themselves - but the ones we hear the most (and loudest) are our very own. Tell the negative voice in your head to NAFF OFF, and bring in a voice that only focuses on what is GOOD about you.
We ALL have some kind of XFactor - find YOURS.

Beware...
All is not what it seems. Celebrities have 'demons' and insecurities too - and often they are played out in public which magnifies their issues even more. At least we have a degree of privacy - be grateful for that.

3. Read something hurtful about yourself?

Stuff is often said in the heat of the moment - and in hindsight is regretted. So don't ALLOW a hurtful comment to linger in your head. It could drag you down unnecessarily.
Laugh it off - (at least someone is thinking about you).

Remember you are likely to make the situation worse if you join in and 'hit back'. Is it really worth it? And aren't you BETTER than that?

4. You are in charge of YOU

That's right. You are the boss of you.
So YOU determine how you feel. YOU decide what actions you will take.
And YOU can make yourself feel absolutely flippin' AMAZING.
YOUR CHOICE.
Just saying.

5. If you want a number '5' .

...Get in touch and say 'Amana, gimme some more'.

So stay connected for the right reasons, have fun, and remember that you have a 'voice', so you use it wisely .

You get back what you give out in life. It's cheesy. But true.

Everyone has a life behind the image - and no ones' is perfect - so don't be fooled by the image you see.

And - Believe. In. You.

Look for and focus on your BEST INGREDIENTS. Everything else just isn't important.
...and any social network can be your friend for life.
 

Trust me.
I'm a coach (an AMAZING coach).

Amana
Straightforward, straight talking coach.
www.amanawalker.com
www.walkahead.co.uk
 

Enough talent to win a flippin' OSCAR...

I've watched enough celebrities...and everyday people like you and me, all yearning to be different. Or better .
It's almost as if the current person they are isn't good enough. Doesn't stand out enough. And doesn't make them happy enough.

If you feel like that - I'd like to challenge you - and also reassure you.


We have become SO good at comparing ourselves to others, it 's easy to want to change.
But into what?
For who?
And ...WHY?

Let me take a good look at you. And into you.

Hmmm......

Here's what I see - someone who can't see just what they have going for them. Someone who has lost their sparkle (or had it knocked out of them). Someone who has fooled themselves into thinking that they are not good enough. You have enough ingredients in you to set the world on fire. You have the tools to achieve anything you want, and your external image is just 'packaging' - if you want to dabble with that - that's OK.

It's what is inside that's the real you. And the real you has TALENT.

Don't change what you have - just FIND it.
(It's buried under a pile of doubt). But it's there alright - oh yeah.

Here's how (part 1)...

1. Get a piece of paper and write on it, all the things that you would change about yourself.
2. Now tear it up and shove it in the bin.
3. Get a piece of paper and write on it 3 things that you think were once great about you.
4. For everything you have written that's good . Remind yourself that those things are still in there, or you're still capable of doing/getting/ being 'it'.
5. At the top of your piece of paper - write the sentence : 'The brand new me'

Don't change what you have - just find it.

No one can make you feel bad, unless YOU allow them to. So why would you?

Worked for Alicia Keys....and will work for you:

'..It's just a brand new kinda me
Can't be bad
I found a brand new kinda free..'

Don't change what you have - just FIND it.
It's a brand new, very talented (and perhaps , undiscovered) you.

You rock baby. And can win ANY award you want.

Amana
Straightforward, straight talking coach.
www.amanawalker.com
www.walkahead.co.uk

Want a brand new you?...here it is.

I've watched enough celebrities...and everyday people like you and me, all yearning to be different. Or better .
It's almost as if the current person they are isn't good enough. Doesn't stand out enough. And doesn't make them happy enough.

If you feel like that - I'd like to challenge you - and also reassure you.

We have become SO good at comparing ourselves to others, it 's easy to want to change.
But into what?
For who?
And ...WHY?

Let me take a good look at you. And into you.

Hmmm......

Here's what I see - someone who can't see just what they have going for them. Someone who has lost their sparkle (or had it knocked out of them). Someone who has fooled themselves into thinking that they are not good enough. You have enough ingredients in you to set the world on fire. You have the tools to achieve anything you want, and your external image is just 'packaging' - if you want to dabble with that - that's OK.

It's what is inside that's the real you.

Don't change what you have  - just FIND it.
(It's buried under a pile of doubt). But it's there alright - oh yeah.

Here's how (part 1)...

1. Get a piece of paper and write on it, all the things that you would change about yourself.
2. Now tear it up and shove it in the bin.
3. Get a piece of paper and write on it 3 things that you think were once great about you.
4. For everything you have written that's good . Remind yourself that those things are still in there, or you're still capable of doing/getting/ being 'it'.
5. At the top of your piece of paper - write the sentence : 'The brand new me'

Don't change what you have - just find it.

No one can make you feel bad, unless YOU allow them to. So why would you?

Worked for Alicia Keys....and will work for you:

'..It's just a brand new kinda me
Can't be bad
I found a brand new kinda free..'

Don't change what you have - just FIND it.
It's a brand new (and perhaps , undiscovered) you.

You rock baby.

Amana
Straightforward, straight talking coach.
www.amanawalker.com
www.walkahead.co.uk

Amana Walker: Things to think about..BEFORE a meteor hits.

Amana Walker: Things to think about..BEFORE a meteor hits.: So Russia has been 'hit' by a meteor. Isn't that one of those things that you read about or see in a movie? The kind of 'action' that's j...

Things to think about..BEFORE a meteor hits.

So Russia has been 'hit' by a meteor.

Isn't that one of those things that you read about or see in a movie?
The kind of 'action' that's just fantasy - but, you KNOW, it's not gonna really happen - right?

Well, wrong apparently.
In our lives , anything is possible and anything could happen.

So the question is - what would you want to have done in your life if you knew a meteor
(or something ) was going to hit?
....and don't think 'It'll never happen' (remember the fateful Tsunami?) ....because it flippin' well could!

Who would you want to be with?
What would you want to have seen?
What about achievements?
How often would you spend time with friends/family?
Who would you want to say 'I love you' or 'I'm sorry' to?
How often would you laugh and have fun...?
...and what other things would you want to do before your time is (potentially) up?

Think about it.
And. Do. It.
Don't put it off for another day.

You never know what will happen - or when - in your life.
No regrets eh?

Amana
Straightforward, straight talking coach
www.amanawalker.com

Feeling cold and gloomy?..You need my 10 minute rule!

When it's cold outside, it's easy to feel gloomy and dull.

It starts with a shiver in the cold wind, add to that a lack of sunshine, and before you know it - no amount of clothing is doing the trick in keeping you warm.

THAT'S when we have a choice:

1. Do we go down that slippery spiral of doom?

OR

2. Do we recognise whats going on, and decide to take some action. (Pronto!)?

Yeah, I know it's tough, because we kinda know what the right thing to do is, but heck - can we be bothered to pick ourselves up?

That's when I think about my '10 minute rule'.

Here's the deal - you are allowed (if you must) to wallow in your gloominess for 10 minutes.
Oh, yeah maximum.

After that, you're done. No more gloom. Pick yourself, using one of the tips below (or anything you want to get out of the doom pit).

1. Make yourself laugh.
    Read something funny, listen to something funny, do something funny.
    I know you feel silly - but so what? you need to change your state of mind, so no excuses.

2. Move your butt.
    Go for a (brisk) walk. Jump up and down a few times (go somewhere quiet if you don't want
     to be seen. Walk up and down the stairs a few times. Get to a gym if you can, or just move
     around more.

3. Think of something hot (steady...I'm talking about a place).
     Get a picture of  a Caribbean beach and stick it on or near your desk at work - or in the kitchen
     at home.
    Grab a few holiday brochures and start dreaming (it works!)....or even better, book a holiday.

4. Make a hot cuppa!
    This is the quick, easy and no excuse option - in fact don't just make one for yourself. Make
    one for everyone at work/home. This act of kindness/sociability will raise happiness levels.
    And go on..throw in a biscuit.

5. Thank your lucky stars....
     If you have a kettle to put on-
     Or friends/family to talk to -
     Or a coat/jumper on your back-
     Or a holiday to look forward to-
     In short - thinking about the good things in your life, will cheer you up. You probably have so much more than most people....so cheer up!



So WHY is 10 minutes your limit for feeling gloomy ?

Because after that, your negative emotional state - and negativity - will be felt by those around you.
You may well be dragging someone else down into your 'pit' with you.
And - the longer you are down there, the harder it is to get back up.

And Remember This - when you are feeling cold and gloomy, who would you rather be with -
Someone miserable who saps your energy, OR someone who cheers you up, makes you laugh and
brightens up your day?

You choose.      
(I'm off to make a cuppa..... )

Amana
Straightforward, straight talking coach.
www.amanawalker.com

 

How do you KNOW when a footballer is in crisis?......

Amana Walker: How do you KNOW when a footballer is in crisis?......: ....Usually you don't. Until they hit rock bottom that is - then everyone knows because it hits the papers. But that's (arguably) to...

How do you KNOW when a footballer is in crisis?....

....Usually you don't.

Until they hit rock bottom that is - then everyone knows because it hits the papers.

But that's (arguably) too late.

'Struggling to cope' can be picked up much earlier than that, often there are tell tale signs that build up over a long period of time. Signs such as these:

1. Withdrawal from being around people (including family)

2. Moods becoming inconsistent for no apparent reason
3. 'Lashing out' and shouting at the slightest thing - on and off the pitch.
4. A growing dependence on .......(fill in the gap with: drink, clubbing, sex, drugs etc).
5. A spiralling downturn in performance
6. Repeated illness/injury/ and 'red card' offences...


At first it seems like the person is having an 'off day' and no real attention is given.
But if someone did pay closer attention, and looked at the detail in body language -
they'd know.
They'd know that here is a cry for help.

There are many footballers/ sportspeople/ celebrities .....(yes and people like you and I) out there all showing the tell tale signs.

You'll get to know of course. When it hits the papers. And when you are well known, that makes for juicy news and this magnifies the problem even more.

Many will argue that these people 'get paid enough' to handle it. But at times like these, money is often the root of the problem - it's a vicious circle!

For all the money being thrown at the sports and entertainment business - it's a sad day when not enough is thrown at picking people up when they are down.

Or dropped from the team.

'Championship' and 'Premiership' doesn't seem to apply to the players' level of care and well being.
Not all good businesses take care of their 'assets'.

...there is far more to winning than scoring goals.

Amana
Straightforward, straight talking coach
www.amanawalker.com
www.walkahead.com

Amana Walker: It's mid -January.....so ,what now?

Amana Walker: It's mid -January.....so ,what now?: Christmas is a distant memory...the fun of New Year has gone,and we are well into January 2013. So What Now? Are you raring to go or alr...

It's mid - January.....so ,what now?

Christmas is a distant memory...the fun of New Year has gone,and we are well into January 2013.

So What Now?

Are you raring to go or already fed up? Is this going to be YOUR year, or are you struggling to keep yourself motivated?

Newspapers and Magazines are full of tips for mind, body and soul- so there's no shortage of help at hand.

But tips aren't always the stuff that's needed.
Often, it's you. Isn't it?

You are the one who has the answers- you just don't want to face them. Yet.
It's much easier to look at (and read about) other peoples' lives. How they might be struggling, what's going well (or not) for them. Especially celebrities.

Looking outside is much more comfortable than looking within. At ourselves.

I say- as a coach (and I am mean) be uncomfortable ! Get out of your comfy comfort zone, kick your own ass and get moving!

Get living! ..and don't wait until Monday (what a lame excuse). Today is the best day to start.
Stop giving yourself excuses. Think about what you want to do with your life (and with yourself) this year and make a god damn plan!

Set your goals high , give yourself some deadline dates - and set yourself on fire with determination!

OR.

Get yourself a coach who will give you the kick you need.
....But if you want easy. Don't ask me.

Heck, I'm really mean.
But good.

Amana
Straightforward, straight talking Coach.
www.amanawalker.com
www.walkahead.com

What's hiding 'Beneath your Beautiful?'

 

Apart from the fact that it is lovely song, Emeli Sande/Labrinth's 'Beneath your Beautiful' holds many truths.

So many people put on a 'front' - a persona, an image of someone they are pretending to be.

At work it can masquerade as 'professionalism' (but too distant).
In the celeb world it often comes out as 'aloofness' .
And in sport - you may well just look like a cocky prat! (sorry but it's true).

...and in all 3, don't be surprised if at some point you go off the rails and down that slippery slope of being angry/ frustrated/ lonely/ depressed.

Do you intend to give out these messages? Er, probably not. But of course on the inside you feel different to how you look on the outside. So to you ,doing the 'pretending'- it feels safe - almost a guard behind a big wall.

That, my friends is where there is a problem.

Because in this fast paced world we live in, we don't have the time (or patience) to look beyond the perception and climb the wall. Or try to see what's behind it.

So whilst you feel safe behind your wall of protection....no one knows who you really are.

No one can see your strengths
No one can see your potential
No one can see your real personality
No one can see your real beauty
No one can love the real you.

And THAT, can be not only very isolating, but also means you never. really. shine.

Heck! What kind of a life is that???!!

Whatever reason you have for hiding behind it (and whatever you are afraid of) , there will be a solution for it - Goddammit - GO LOOK FOR IT.

Ask for help if you need to ....but just flippin' do it. (I know, I'm tough on you).

And only then can you start living life as the real you.allowing people to see you 'stripped bare' (ie by quitting the cover up ).


I promise you, when poeple see 'beneath your beautiful' - they find something better.

Amana
Straightforward, straight talking coach.

www.amanawalker.com